People always ask whether online dating works, do people really meet and fall in love dating online. For those that met their partner on an online dating site the answer is clearly yes but many fail to meet someone but why?
The simple answer is “Yes, it does work if you are realistic”, well that was a short post, so I am of to the gym (as if).
However, many people approach online dating with unrealistic expectations and therefore fail to find anyone to have a relationship with. Advertising for online dating sites adds to the unrealistic mental images of online dating.
Think about Match.com and their ‘meet someone in 6 months or you get 6 months free’ guarantee …. wow their site must have a thousand Mr Right’s just for me, woopee!!
This kind of advertising leads us into a false sense of reality and anyone joining an online dating site for the first time will be rather disappointed when Mr/Miss Right fails to appear in the first 2 dates.
Online dating takes time and effort, you have to learn how to read between the lines of dating profiles, recognise red flags and usually have a few unsuccessful dates before anyone right for you appears.
Just because someone seems perfect for you online or on the telephone doesn’t mean there will be any chemistry between you.
Take time and keep your expectations low, have fun and make some new friends online but don’t expect that someone special to just fall out of the cyber sky in the first week.
One of my most repeated tips for online dating is to find a site with like-minded people, that way you already share some interests with the other members. If you live in Germany and love skydiving then look for a site based in Germany that specialises in extreme sport enthusiasts. If you live in UK and love the countryside then join a rural online dating site.
Online dating is not rocket science, just choose the right site, chat to lots of people and don’t expect too much too soon.