Pornography is a Pandora’s Box, full of exciting forbidden fruit but if opened it can destroy a happy marriage.
The porn industry is raking the money in using every trick in the book to grab another buck.
They want you to believe that it’s all perfectly normal, everyone’s doing it … except you, because your sex life is boring.
What they won’t tell you is how their fake product can damage your marriage.
Here are three ways pornography can seriously damage your marriage.
There are only so many times you can watch a businessman check into a hotel and find the chambermaid making the bed without any underwear on before it becomes old and boring.
So you sign up to a more adult site, hey it’s only the price of dinner out with the wife or a new playstation game for the kids and you work for the money so you deserve it.
You’re not into anything kinky so you slide on over to the teen virgin section … hey we all know they are much older and school uniforms don’t mean you want to have it away with kids.
A month later that’s old and tired, hey check out the threesome section .. it’s perfectly normal, lot’s of people do that.
The wife swapping section looks good .. maybe your friends Gill and Ben would be up for that?
There’s sections for sadism and bestiality which you’ll never look at … although we know it’s only acting so you just have a quick look for a laugh.
This is the process of desensitisation, in the same way that we watch more and more graphic horror movies, because we become less sensitive to what we are watching.
Desensitisation leads to crossing moral boundaries you would never have dreamed of crossing before you happened across that first pornography website.
How can your wife compete with this? You now think these acts are perfectly normal and acceptable, not only that but you need such images to get excited .. however, your wife still lives in the real world.
Most people will masterbate when they watch pornography, which isn’t really a big deal.
However, masterbation, when you have a sexual partner waiting upstairs for you, is purely a self serving act.
As an occasional act for relief it’s not a problem but when you start to prefer to masterbate watching pornography instead of having sex with your wife or husband then your marriage is in trouble.
Once you start ignoring your wife or husbands sexual needs and sneaking off to your fantasy world then your ability to fulfill your own and your wife/husbands sexual needs as a couple are diminished.
If you are watching lesbian films or threesomes you will begin to feel that something is missing when you do have sex with your wife or husband.
Your spouse will therefore become boring and you will be driven right back to the films or internet and back to serving only yourself.
This can then manifest itself in a lessened feeling of affection for your wife or husband, a lack of closeness begins to emerge and your wife/husband begins to feel neglected and unloved.
MORE, give me more!!
So you “innocently” enter the fantasy world of pornography late one night when browsing the net, while you’re wife or husband’s asleep.
You know it’s a fantasy world, the men and women aren’t real, they are surrounded by soft lighting, have fake boobs and have been ridden more often than the winner of the Grand National but it’s just a bit of fun.
You masterbate for a couple of minutes then switch it off, no harm done.
The problem is once we enter the fantasy world we can never be satisfied and the occasional look becomes a regular habit.
You visit the sites more often at night after the wife or husband is alseep, until you find yourself waiting for them to go to bed so you can go and watch.
You become less interested in your sexual relationship with your partner because you have the fantasy world waiting and it takes zero effort, there’s no coaxing or foreplay involved.
How long before you ask the tech guy at work if the computers have adult sites blocked?
You hide your actions because you know your wife or husband would be upset, they would feel inadequate.
You download a couple of films .. just to watch if the computer breaks and hide them where your spouse won’t find them.
This is an addiction like any other and like any other addiction it can in time consume you.
There is also the issue of building an unrealistic image in your mind of what a healthy sexual relationship is about.
If you need help in dealing with a sex addiction or addiction to pornography please contact the following organisations and get help before you damage your marriage: