How to Get a Date?

Very few people want to be alone, so why are you?

Perhaps you are perfectly happy being single but if you are reading this post then it might be a hint to yourself that you are ready to date again.

If you have reached the ‘I’ll never meet anyone’ stage or you seem un-dateable, you have to figure out why before you should start looking for a date.

There are various elements that involve how to successfully get a date. Let’s explore a few of these options in more detail below.

Would You Want to Go Out With Yourself?

Take a good deep look at yourself. Not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. Are you ready to date again? You may have gone through a divorce or a really harsh break up, so you may not be ready to move on emotionally and invest that many feelings into one person again. Are you afraid of relationships or love? Physically, you may have given up on your appearances because you feel like you are un-dateable. If you are looking to get over your ex, doing physical activity will not just make you feel better about yourself but it will also help you to meet new people. By meeting new friends you will start letting go of your emotional problems and stress, this will start gearing your attention towards dating and finding someone new in your life.

Do You Want Someone to Approach You?

After you decide you are ready to date again and begin feeling confident people will begin to notice, because self confidence is always an attractive quality.  When people begin to notice you and pay you attention how are you responding? Does your body language say “Hey, come on over” or is it saying “Not interested in the slightest”? When someone shows a slight interest in you, your body language must be able to respond. Without a flash of a smile or a playful nod of the head, people will be afraid to approach you. The best way to overcome this is by testing out the waters. Start smiling, laughing and inviting people into your life, even if it’s just as new friends. This will help you to practice in order to snag yourself a date.

Remember Who You Are Talking to

Men and women communicate differently. If you are talking to a man, do not pretend he is your best girl friend. You may talk his ear off so much that he forgets to even ask you out. If you are talking to a woman, you have to remember that she likes it if you take an interest in her. If you seem uninterested in what she has to say, there is little reason for her to take this conversation to the next level. Communication is key, so remember who you are talking to and how you should speak to them in order to get a first or second date.

Do You Want to Date?

Your will to date will answer whether or not you want to date. You may say you want to but in reality you are not even putting yourself out there to date. You must make yourself available in order for people to realize that you are on the market. Start going out with friends, take up a new course or start a new physical activity to start getting yourself out there. Online dating will help you tremendously to get a date when you do not have the time to start joining new activities but don’t get stuck in the rut of hiding behind your keyborad, online dating is only a spring board to a real date and is not in itself a relationship.

When you are flirting with someone that you would like to go out with, remember to be yourself and be honest. Within a few minutes you will realize that your Friday night movie at your house just became a dinner date for two!

Allison Schleck is a featured writer for the Senior Dating site. Allison is a well-accomplished bilingual writer for magazines, websites and newspapers who teaches Karate Do on her down time.

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3 Responses to “How to Get a Date?”

  1. Michael Allen (1 comments.) Says:

    The art of finding the right person is to go on as many dates as you can. Don’t settle and don’t stop with the one you think might be it. Let things proceed slowly and with caution!

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  2. Rosy(new comment) Says:

    Hi Michael,

    I do and don’t agree with you. I kinda person who cannot likes/loves so many people at the same times if we will go to as many dates as we can, it’s time and feeling we are talking here, how can you develope that feeling when you can’t give full attention to that particular person when another 5 or 10 waiting for you next door? sound interesting if you can… well unless you are rich, don’t have to work and just do the same thing now and then, but it is really nice to know, wanna share the tips to me? I really think it’s good, cause at the same time you are save your time at one go! but I really wonder how?

    Thought for a penny….


  3. Kitty from Have An Affair(new comment) Says:

    I meet women all of the time who are depressed about being single and really want to start dating a man but as you said they don’t put themselves out there. They are just wondering around waiting for Prince Charming to magically show up randomly in their life. You’ve got to get out and about and meet new people and you need to meet more than one man. A gal needs choices!
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