It is shattering when you go through a divorce, even if you are fully aware you were not happy in the relationship.
When you have history with someone and they no longer want or need you it hurts, you feel as though your life is broken.
Pieces of your life are littering the floor, the idea of dating again is unappealing but it is possible to turn virtually any negative into a positive.
They say life is a rich tapestry and surely it is, with memories both happy and sad affecting who we are as people today.
Rather than a tapestry try to think of your life as a painted plate, each chapter of your life is painted onto the ceramic plate. When you go through a divorce the plate shatters and you are no longer sure who you are but this is a great opportunity to renew yourself.
look at the individual pieces of your life lying on the floor, the different colours, the missed opportunities and the pain you wish you hadn’t experienced.
Now only pick up the pieces you want to keep, remember that when you glue the pieces together the glued sections are actually stronger than the original pieces.
Are there gaps where you wish you had grabbed the opportunity to go sky diving or learn to salsa? Do it now, you are free to make your own choices, to put together a new plate made up of only the pieces that matter to you.
Those broken pieces that you do not want to carry with you into your future just sweep up and throw in the bin. This is a new beginning, a chance to start afresh and be the person you know you can be.
Think how beautiful a mosaic can be and this is made up of small broken fragments, you too can be beautiful and once you realise this you will be ready to date again.
It may not feel as easy as it sounds, it isn’t of course but the important thing is to remember that everything starts somewhere, just picking up one piece and being happy with it is a start toward your future happiness.